That requires a different posture of empathy that I have to practice every single day. I am committed to them and I choose to be part of their life without being critical.
I also realized that as I go through my own wilderness journey I deeply affect those in my life. There is no winner, whether we choose to fit in or not each of us has to figure out which choice we are comfortable with. I understand that their journey is as hard as my own, if not harder. I am now able to empathize with them, as they are making the choice to protect themselves from conflict, and vulnerability by staying quiet. I developed deeper insights about what may be holding them back from developing the courage to stand alone. Her research and own story, not only guided me to reflect on what I stand for, but also helped me view myself through the eyes of those who are anything like me those who choose to fit in and not speak-up. It was this quote that attracted me to the book “Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone” by Dr. This quote resonates with me deeply every time I read it it reminds me of all the challenges I have encountered over the years in my relationships with family, friends, and colleagues, who do not share my socioeconomic, political, and all other views.
#Brene brown into the wilderness free#
It’s a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts.“You are only free when you realize you belong no place - you belong every place - no place at all. But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others it’s a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. But in a culture that’s rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, it’s easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism. In moments of great polarization in our society and between communities, we often default to sharing ideas and interacting with people who make us most comfortable. Brown argues that we’re experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other. Highlight from the book:įrom the book: "True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary. We may fight against it, avoid it, or conform our own beliefs to "belong". While it may seem easier not to engage at all, avoiding interactions with them means passing up opportunities to build relationships and community.īrene Brown tackles the problem of how engaging across difference can be difficult in "Braving the Wilderness". This is particularly true when we’re talking with people whose beliefs or viewpoints we think will differ sharply from our own.
#Brene brown into the wilderness how to#
As you discussed in the "What if I Say the Wrong Thing" learning community, it can often be challenging to have discussions with people who have different life experiences or backgrounds. We may often feel we don't know how to relate to them, or are afraid we’ll say the wrong thing.
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